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Sensuality Sweetens with Age (If You Want)

Sensuality is a feeling and a state of mind that you can choose—at any adult age—to cultivate. I’ve found that feeling sensual sweetens with age because as you get older, you become more aware, wise, and confident.

To be sensual is to arouse and gratify the senses. This is different from being “sexual” which is more about physical attraction and intimacy. Nurturing ones sensuality does make for better sex, but beyond that—unleashing your sensual side—invigorates and elevates ordinary life experiences into something more fulfilling and absolutely not-boring.

To be sensual is to have a heightened awareness of your sense of sight, smell, sound, taste, and touch and to use them to make you feel amazing.

Elevate Your Senses

Sensuality in “sight” is about looking at something and seeing its beauty. It’s about admiring the lines, curves, and space that an object consumes. Next time you see a flower, sports car, or sculpture stop for a moment and look at it with “sensual” eyes. That means SEE its design.

Appreciate how the artist, engineer, or nature created the lines, curves, and features of the object. Pay attention to the details and then step back and look at it whole. Experience what it is to really see something—the beauty of an object just being—through the filter of your highly aware set of eyes.

When one can see the world (or at least certain  things) in this way—with heightened  awareness—ordinary life such as walking in nature, sitting at an outside café, perusing a museum can turn into opportunities of magic and awe. The cool thing is you can choose to awaken these visual sense powers at any time.

Sensuality in “smell” is about breathing in the full scent of something and appreciating what that smell does to you and your body. If you really want to know the smell of something, close your eyes, relax your body, and put your nose close to the object and take a slow deep inhale. Monitor any physical changes—goose bumps, shivers, increased muscle relaxation and so on—that may arise from the scent. Notice what thoughts are triggered by its aroma. Examine your feelings that come to life.

To me, this is what the saying “smell the roses” really means. It’s about taking your time, focusing your awareness, and appreciating the life (or chocolate chip cookie) in front of you. Making time to smell things takes life experiences such as picking flowers, drinking wine, or smelling babies to another level. These brief moments, where you choose to slow down and truly smell something is a way to immediately enhance your daily life into the interesting and sometimes, extraordinary.

Sensuality can open the doors to a different way of experiencing life.

3 Sensuality Exercises to Try:

1. Taste Explosion

Take a piece of good chocolate and eat it as slow as possible. Close your eyes, take the smallest bites, and savor every morsel. Recognize your physical reactions to the chocolate, regard what thoughts chocolate brings up for you, and the emotions that awaken by savoring the chocolate.

2. Sound Expansion

Get a pair of headphones, pick a song that means something to you, turn off the lights in the room, and listen with your complete attention to the music. Close your eyes, visualize what the song means to you, observe how your breath and heart beat change with the music, and feel deeply the emotions that are brought up by the words and melody.

3. Morning Revelation

As you begin to wake from sleep, keep your eyes closed, and awaken your senses. What do you feel? What do you hear? What do you smell? Use your fingertips to slowly caress your sheets, blanket, and pj’s. Squeeze your pillow and inhale & exhale deeply. Take stock of your energy level, what thoughts are playing in your mind, and intuitively ask yourself what do you want for breakfast. Finish by hugging yourself and saying something positive about you and your day.

Sensuality is part physical, mental and spiritual. It’s a way of expanding ones awareness to bring more meaning and enjoyment in one’s life.

Everyone can be more sensual if they want.

The featured image in this post is of my client and good friend Jessica. This picture can be seen as sexual, but what I immediately thought when I saw it was — sensual. I thought this picture as sensual because of what I imagined her feeling during that moment.

Feelings such as the silky water flowing down her skin, the fresh smell of soap and the tropics (as this was taken in an outside shower in Seychelles,) and the calming sound of the water hitting the tiles. What also captured my attention was the utter contentment—a mixture of peace and confidence—that exudes from her aura. Other words that came to mind as I looked upon this image was goddess, feminine, freedom,  ecstasy, and joy. Here is a woman in total sensual abandon—amazing!

You are Sensual (If You Want to Be)

We don’t have to be in an outdoor shower in a tropical island to feel this good. We can be in our own bathroom—taking a bath, shower, dry brushing, or applying lotion—and create an atmosphere of sensuality by elevating our senses to feel more deeply about what we’re doing.

Being sensual may be difficult for some. It’s unnatural for most of us to be so aware in this way. We go about life in such a fast pace that to take the time to see, smell, hear, taste, and touch something with complete focus may seem like a waste of time. But, as I said, “sensuality sweetens with age” and as years go by we realize how time is precious and experiencing joyful moments is truly worth our time.

If you find yourself thinking you don’t have time to be sensual, it’s wrong to be sensual, you’re too this or that to be sensual — ask yourself why?

Here’s a tip. It’s not about why you don’t have time. The better question is, why won’t you make time for yourself to enjoy life in this way when you can?

If you think it’s wrong to be sensual, ask yourself where did you learn that idea? And is it a thought you want to continue believing? If you think you’re unable to be sensual for whatever reason, ask yourself, when did this start and how can you heal so that you can be more free and sensual.

To Be Sensual is to Be Ageless

Sensuality is part of an ageless lifestyle as it supports optimal health. When you savor food you’re less likely to over-eat, slowing down in general decreases stress, and finding more ways to enjoy life improves your total well-being.

Sensuality raises mind-body-spirit connection. As your awareness and ability to listen to your bio-feedback—the information that your heightened senses give you increases—so will your life and health improve. Sensuality also contributes to a timeless way of being, the cornerstone of youthfulness.

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7 Signs You May Die with Regret and How to Turn It Around

Dying with regret or finding yourself feeling like you missed out on life is no place to be. Learn the signs that tell you it’s time to change your ways so you can start moving towards the life you DO want and enjoying the well-being you deserve.

The top 5 most common regrets of the dying as reported by The Guardian:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Your current way of life may or may not contribute to a life of regret, but it isn’t hard to imagine how a life only lived in the “rat race”—an existence where you’re constantly climbing, competing, and comparing—will make a life filled with stress and disappointment. Competition and comparison being at the root of unhappiness for many people. Also, we were not born to only work, pay bills, and buy an endless amount of stuff. We were born to experience, explore, learn, and grow.

Granted, valuable life experience can be had in the workplace, through the trials of competition and comparison, in buying a home, and even in shopping, but it can’t be the majority of one’s life experience. The top 5 regrets of the dying was not about wishing they worked more or had more things—they wanted to feel, express, and connect more.

At the end of their lives, they wished they lived a more authentic life. An existence where they felt their feelings fully, expressed them honestly, and enjoyed themselves truly. They wanted a life where they made their wants and needs a priority over what others expected and they wished they had spent more time with their loved ones.

To avoid regret in our twilight years we have to be aware of how we’re living today. We have to be more mindful of our life choices knowing that each decision has a consequence. That each choice made regularly brings us closer to a certain end.

The more we try to make better choices—decisions that support our happiness and well-being—the less likely we will look back on our time on earth with disappointment.

Here are 7 signs that reveal your current lifestyle is moving you towards a life of regret and some ideas on how to turn things around.

1. You’re unhappy—a lot.

If you find yourself feeling unhappy most days, then it’s time to fix your life. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad, mad, annoyed, and so on—feeling the full spectrum of human emotions is important to our  personal growth and humanity—but you deserve to feel a general contentment and happiness most of your days. If this is not the case, here are things you can do:

A) Get help. Go see a life counselor, coach, or therapist who can help navigate your life to a happier state.

B) Be honest with yourself. Write down the top 3 things you’re unhappy about and then create an action plan to make things better. You have more power and options than you think.

Sometimes you just need to sit down with a pen and paper, and write out what you want in life. People who write down their goals have a better chance of achieving them. Of course, you need to follow it up with action—listen to your own valuable advice.

C) Heal yourself. There is a reason—an event, a behavior pattern, a limiting belief, a set of circumstances you’re always attracting—that is contributing or creating your unhappiness. Get to the heart of your problems and heal them so you can move on and be happy.

2. You get angry quickly.

Do you feel like you “lose it” easily? Do you snap at people—especially your loved ones—without a second thought, even for the smallest thing? Being mad all the time can destroy your relationships and lead to many regrets.

Anger is an emotion you don’t want to hold on to for too long. It can cause disharmony in your personal connections but even more so, feelings such as rage, indignation, and irritation—anger in its different forms—can “feed” illness and disease by way of distress on the body. Anger also affects mental clarity and spirit balance.

If you’re upset often and you think it’s “not normal” to be so mad, then seek help. There maybe an underlying issue beneath all your anger and frustration. Reach out to friends and family that may understand what you’re going through. Take anger management classes and join appropriate support groups that can help you feel better. Turn to a counselor, therapist, or your place of worship for help and advice.

It’s not easy to change one’s feelings from anger to happiness immediately. If the anger runs deep—stemming from bad memories and trauma—then there is a road of healing that must be traveled before a person can be free of it. In order to die without regrets, our deepest hurts must be resolved.

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3. You have poor health.

If your health isn’t the best right now—and you do nothing about it—it will get worse as you age. Being unhealthy when you’re older can be very problematic. Not only does the body heal slower when we’re older—it’s costly. With most people living on fixed incomes in their old age, massive medical bills can eat away at any retirement savings.

It’s easy to imagine what regrets an older, sickly person can have: “I wish I worked out more.”, “I wish I ate better.” “I wish I went to the doctor sooner.”, and so on. Regrets such as these can be avoided by making smart, manageable, and consistent choices that support one’s health and well-being now. You don’t need to eat perfectly or exercise like a maniac to have good health. Point of fact, I advice my clients to be “good”—that’s eating and moving just enough—80% of the time.

In my early thirties I already felt like a senior citizen because of my chronic back pain. I was constantly anxious about my future thinking, “If this is how I feel now, what will it be like in my 60’s and 70’s?” I did not want to live in regret or pain. I decided that it wasn’t too late for me to fix my back problems so that I can give myself a brighter future. Now, in my forties, I’m enjoying being 99% pain-free.

What decision can you make today that contributes to your good health so that your future self will thank you?

Don’t wake up to regret later. Do something for your health & wellness now and be consistent about it. Here are 3 things you can do to get you started or keep you going…

A) Surround yourself with the right people. Get a gym membership. Join a yoga studio. Create a fitness-sisterhood with your girlfriends. It doesn’t matter how you do it, what matters is that you hangout with people who are interested in living healthy so that you can motivate and support each other.

B) Do a health or fitness program. From Weight Watchers to the Whole30, I’ve seen women find more success when they are guided by a program. It makes sense, as with achieving any goal—you need a plan—in order to make it happen.

If I may be so bold as to suggest one of my fitness plans… If you want a jump-start your health & fitness goals—and improve your posture and confidence to boot—join my Better Posture in 30 Days program. With it, you’ll create better habits—learning to do 5 minute exercise routines—that focus on body awareness, helps develop better neuro-muscular efficiency (that’s the ability of your brain to talk to your muscles), and improves core strength.

C) Get a professional to help you. Nothing beats having the guidance of a health & fitness professional. They can create a plan that will help you achieve your wellness goals. They can push you to succeed and urge you to keep going when you feel less than motivated.

Also, I’ve found from my extensive experience as a personal trainer and life-coach—when people pay for something—they feel more compelled to follow through. Whether it’s because they don’t want to miss an appointment, let their coach down, or waste their money—people seem doubly invested in making their goals happen when they invest money in themselves.

4. You feel like a robot.

If you feel like a robot now—a slave to your job, bills, and circumstances—and you do nothing about it, you will have regrets later in life. You will be—as those people interviewed in the “Top 5 Regrets of the Dying“—someone who wished they didn’t work so hard and let themselves be happier.

If you feel mindless—going day to day in a type of fog—neither being engaged or inspired by life, then it’s time to wake up. You were not meant to be a robot. No human is. You are a soul meant to have a human experience filled with all kinds of emotions—from sadness to elation, from boredom to excitement, from fear to hope, and so on. But, don’t get stuck in the mire of life; it doesn’t need to be such a trek.

You can choose to have a more meaningful life by deciding everyday to act in support of your dreams, happiness, and well-being.

If you don’t want to be a robot all your life, then don’t give up on your dreams.  Having dreams—goals, wishes, and deep desires that you try to reach—can inject new vigor and interest in your life. When you live in pursuit of your dreams, you won’t feel like you’re walking mindlessly through your existence. You will feel like you have a purpose.

Your dreams may not be the same as when you were young—as dreams evolve—but it’s never too late to reach for a new goal. If you have a deep wish—something you want to achieve or have—write down a plan, think positive, and follow it up with concerted action!

One way to not feel like a robot is to do stuff that makes you smile, laugh, and be happy. Watch funny movies, hang out with friends, and / or pick up a fun hobby. Basically, participate and play in your life. The more fun you have in life, the less likely you will have feelings of regret later.

Another way to not feel like a “worker-bee-drone” is to do self-care. Get massages, meditate, go for walks on the beach, or things of that nature. Self-care is any act that helps you feel better, healthier, and gives you peace of mind. When you take care of you—and you do this for a lifetime—you won’t regret it.

5. You have unhealthy vices.

Vices such as drugs, smoking, excessive drinking, binge eating, sugary food, extravagant expenses, immoderate TV /  smartphone / gaming usage, and participating in volatile relationships will lead to a life of regrets. Overindulging in these vices can destroy your body, mess up your mind, and put you in debt at the very least. At the worst, you can lose your life and alienate yourself from your loved ones in the process. Most people who travel down this path have many regrets later in life.

If you have any of these issues, fix them now. Talk to your doctor, join the right self-help and support group, and heal the reasons behind what is driving you to turn to these vices. In my experience with risky behavior, you have to heal the root cause or else you just replace the vice with another.

6. Your physical appearance has drastically changed for the worst.

If your appearance denotes “unhealthiness”—this can mean anything from deep bags in your eyes because you’re burning the candle at both ends or having gained or lost a lot of weight due to stress—and you continue as you are, you’ll end up with a load of regrets.

Looks aren’t everything, but they do tell the story of how a person takes care of themselves. From their physical health to their self-image, and self-love beliefs—one’s outside appearance is a representation of their inside health and well-being.

There was a 2+ year period in my twenties where I mostly wore sweats, no make-up, and had a general lack of regard for my appearance. Just by reading that sentence, what do you think was the state of my mind, body, and spirit health? Exactly. I was unhealthy. Nothing is wrong with wearing sweats or going without make-up, but for me it was a drastic change from my normal appearance and it was a sign that I was depressed.

If your “look” has changed because of unhealthy reasons—get help. Go to people you can trust. Reach out to organizations that specialize in whatever it is that is ailing you. Ask for help from doctors, therapists, and holistic care practitioners that have experience with what you’re going through.

It’s never too late to ask for help, to make better choices, and to act differently so you can have a brighter future.

7. You neglect your family and friends.

As we’ve learned from the top 5 regrets of the dying, not spending time with loved ones is a pained regret. Not expressing our feelings and letting things go “unsaid” to people we love is also a regret for many. Don’t be that person.

Ask yourself, “What will I gain if I spend more time with my kids? What will I or they lose if I don’t?” or “What will I gain if I spent more time with my Partner? What will I lose if I spend less time with him or her?”, and so on. Remember, your decisions move you forward to a certain outcome. If you want to move towards a life of less regret, then make choices you won’t regret.

Say the things you want to say NOW. As no one is promised tomorrow—there is no better time than the present to express your feelings of love and appreciation.

If you feel other emotions such as anger, unhappiness, distrust, and so forth, express them too. Feel your feelings fully, express them when you can think clearly, and decide what to do with your feelings by thinking how can you be more loving to yourself and all parties involved.

To die with regret may be one of the worst feelings—especially if you realize you could have changed things by making different choices. Decide to improve the quality of your life today so that when you look back, you’ll remember your time with a warm heart and a sense of satisfaction.

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Top 5 Regrets of the Dying

7 Key Steps to Aging Well

When someone is described as “aging well” they are normally being judged by their ability to keep their youthful looks—but is that really aging well?

While retaining a youthful appearance is one aspect of aging favorably, it certainly should not be the bench mark. Along with taking care of one’s physical looks—as I totally support caring for your temple—I define aging well as having a sharp mind, vibrant energy, being able to move with ease, having no illness or disease, possessing a timeless attitude, and most of all, having achieved mind-body-spirit harmony.

Wouldn’t you agree a person who possessed all those things to be “aging” well?

Because what’s the point of looking young if say one’s body had no vitality, if the mind had no clarity, or if spirit was neglected and thus leaving the person lacking in joy and hope for life? (Joyfulness and hopefulness being essential character traits of a youthful person.)

What About DNA?

Some people believe that DNA—the genes you were born with—is the most important factor in whether a person will be healthy in life and if they will age well.

DNA is a contributing factor, but not the determinative “end all” that many would like to blame.

As you age your DNA and family health history become less influential and your attitude and actions—your daily life choices—is what shapes your total well-being.

My family health history tells me that I can get Type II diabetes easier than most. I’ve had several dear family members lose limbs and their lives to the disease. Point of fact, in my early thirties I was warned by my doctor of having a blood sugar count of over 100mg which is considered prediabetes.

The irony of learning this about myself was during that time I was a personal trainer and a teacher for the Stanford Center for Research in Disease Prevention at Stanford University, to prevent Type II diabetes in young girls through dance, nutrition, and mentorship. Here I was helping people to be healthier and to prevent this disease and I was becoming prediabetic.

You can learn more about my back-to-health story, but basically I was able to remove myself from the prediabetic category and successfully avoid the disease that has affected so many of my family by making key lifestyle changes.

Diabetes is not the only family “disease” that I’ve been able to steer free of. I’ve also remedied, if not totally cured myself of Asthma, digestive and bladder problems, and other issues I would rather not mention. Am I special in someway that I was able to avoid illnesses that I’m genetically predisposed to? The answer is—no. I just made different choices that helped prevent and / or heal the things that could have adversely affected my health.

Many of us know someone whose family has been touched by cancer. We know that some of these cancers are hereditary, so when a child of a parent who suffered from such a cancer makes a decision to help prevent themselves from getting that disease—such as eating healthier, moving more, or opting for surgery that lessens their chances—then it is by these choices that they will experience better health.

The opposite is true as well. You could have inherited genes that make you age better and help you have better health than most, but if your daily life is filled with stress, if you smoke and drink alcohol in excess, if you over eat and hardly move, then no amount of good genes will help keep your youthful appearance or good health.

To buy into the myth—that you are stuck with your genes—is to disempower yourself.

You have the power to create a better life by fixing your attitude and acting in support of your health and life goals.

“Perception is awareness shaped by belief. Beliefs ‘control’ perception. Rewrite beliefs and you rewrite perception. Rewrite perception and you rewrite genes and behavior… I am free to change how I respond to the world, so as I change the way I see the world I change my genetic expression. We are not victims of our genes. We are masters of our genetics.” ~ Bruce Lipton Ph.D., cellular biologist

How to Age Well

1. Keep your mind sharp. Never stop learning and always stay curious.

2. Be vibrant. Your energy will ebb and flow naturally, but be engaged—participate—in life.

3. Stay physical. The human body is most beautiful in motion. Move in a way that feels good and do it often enough to be good for you.

4. Keep healthy. Do what you can to prevent illness and disease. Choose what’s good for you 80% of the time. You have power over yourself to improve your life—in every way.

5. Develop a timeless attitude. Your age is not a handicap. It’s a blessing.

6. Get your glow on. Do your self-care. You’re at the age where you don’t need to feel guilty about it. You deserve it sister. Make yourself feel good. We know your outer beauty is but a small reflection of your inner divine loveliness.

7. Work on your mind-body-spirit harmony. Every part of you deserves attention and finding that balance is the key to optimal health and experiencing peace, love, and joy more often.

“I don’t believe in age. I believe in energy. Don’t let age dictate what you can and cannot do.” ~ Tao Porchon-Lynch, 97-year-old yoga teacher

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Find More Joy in 2016 by Doing This

During the last days of 2015, I saw a meme by Guide Post of Light that said, “This January, why not start the year with an empty jar and fill it with notes about good things that happen. Then on New Year’s Eve empty it and see what awesome stuff happened that year.” I thought, what a fantastic idea! So I got my jar ready. 🙂

Why do this in 2016? (Or any year for that matter?)

Find More Joy in 2016 by Doing This1. To Promote a Positive Mindset

See and note the goodness that you experience all year to keep your mind in a positive state. With this activity, you can manage where your general thoughts lie and where your feelings settle.

As we’ve all experienced, our minds can get the best of us. Our thoughts can create scenarios in our head that are not so positive and—that’s ok. Life isn’t perfect. We don’t need to have perfect thoughts and perfect feelings. That’s not what this is about.

But, if we can help ourselves by steering our thoughts and feelings to be more positive, loving, and grateful—by noticing our joyful moments—then I believe we owe it to ourselves to do that because we deserve to be happy.

Also, when we have a positive mindset, we are in a better place to be creative, solve problems, and lift ourselves (and others) up.

2. To Support the Law of Attraction

The premise of the Law of Attraction is like attracts like. So if your mindset is mainly positive, then you’ll attract more positive situations to you.

With your optimistic way of thinking, it’s easier for you to feel things like joy, laughter, love, and gratitude. As you experience these feelings so will you attract more moments where you can enjoy these emotions again.

3. To Encourage a Timeless Way of Being

A “timelessness way of being” is a kind of positive attitude and self-belief where an individual is undeterred by their age to do, be, and accomplish anything they want.  They have an unshakable notion that things will “happen” in due time or divine time.

As you physically track the good things that happen to and for you, you see how you’re getting the things you want in life. Inevitably, the joys you witness have a lot to do with your wants, desires, and needs. Keeping track of them brings the realization that you did it, got it, or accomplished it!

As time passes, you see that everything you’ve put your heart, thought, and action into have materialized. It also works the other way. Per the Law of Attraction—if your thoughts and actions aren’t positive in nature—then your reality won’t be as good or joyful.

4. To Support Good Health

As you experience more good days than bad—because you’re constantly on the look-out for your “miracles” as it were—you’re a lot happier. When you’re in a good mood, your body is less stressed which supports your well-being.

Stress contributes to illness and disease. Paying attention to your joyful moments by writing them down can be part of your holistic stress management. When you successfully handle stress your quality of life improves—mind, body, and spirit happiness baby!

5. To Fall in Love with Your Life

“Be in love with your life. Every minute of it.” ~ Jack Kerouac

This is a no-brainer. If you’re paying attention—daily—to the great stuff that is happening to and for you—you’re going to say, “Life is good!”

Falling in love with your life is inevitable when you have a positive mindset, when you’re attracting more of what you want, when you’re getting stuff done, and when you’re feeling good and empowered.

See how great you have it, feel gratitude for your abundance, and be in love with your life by monitoring your daily joys. At the end of the year, reflect and reminisce on the happy moments you’ve had and let it motivate you to do more good so you can continue to experience the same. Let’s start the year with our best foot forward by promising to keep track of all the wonderful things that happen to us (and if you’re so moved, make note of the amazing things you see happening in the world too) in 2016 in a keepsake jar.

Rumi said, “What you seek is seeking you.”

So be on the look out for joy and joy—my dears—will find you!

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Happy New Year!!!


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From Flailing, to Adulting, to Ageless Living – How I Got My Groove (and You can too)

What is “groove?”

I define “groove” as :: having an established routine or habit(s) which puts one in a state of being comfortable with oneself and their environment.

Furthermore, I would place “finding one’s groove” as a type of enlightenment, an awareness of oneself and their understanding of where they are in the universe.

Here’s a funny meme relating what I mean::Shi(ft) Happens

So it’s taken over 40 years to get to this “enlightenment” phase of my life. Where I now help others with their “shit.” But, it’s only fair to say that I toggle (often) between awareness of my own “shit,” healing it, and then being able to inspire and guide others to do the same.

This latter part is where I think my “groove” is at. I’ve come to the point in life — having developed habits and check systems — where I can come into a situation and see my “shit” in relationship to it and with very little lag time, face and heal it, and then get to the growing and expanding bit that we all love. (Too bad we have to go through that pesky stuff in between.)

The road-map that got me here was filled with bumps, twists, and hazardous cliffs. If you’ve ever seen or heard of the Baha 1000 or any world rally course, life has kind of been like that. And no road is more special or makes someone more deserving of anything. So I know that your road has been just as arduous. Which makes us amazing individuals to have traversed it.

From Flailing, to Adulting, to Ageless Living

I consider my teens and 20s as my flailing years. A time where I mostly felt misunderstood, where I grasped for meaning and connection in the strangest places, and created scenarios of painful learning.

My thirties were my adulting years. A time of doing “grown-up and responsible things,” like focusing on my career, health, and building better relationships. Still, life lessons were a plenty as I began to become self-aware.

As I neared my forties my awakening solidified. Lessons became understandings feeding my growth and expansion. Awareness became second nature, and the life tools I’d been gathering for the last 20+ years became truly useful as I wielded them with more efficiency.

Now fully in my forties, I’m ageless living. I define that as having optimal health, mind-body-spirit coherence, and possessing a timeless attitude. More importantly, I am Queen of me. I’m still learning of course because that’s just part of life, but living in a way where I’m doing so — in my groove.

How can you be in your groove too?

Here are a few steps to finding your groove.

Step 1. Develop habits that help you live the life you want. Habits such as healthy eating, consistent movement, and nurturing self-awareness.

Step 2. Practice self-love and do self-healing on a regular basis. Healing your “shit” is the most important thing in life. It helps you love and accept yourself so that you can just BE. From this place of being, you fall into your groove.

Step 3. Repeat Steps 1 & 2 everrrrrryday until you are in your groove.

To be in your groove is to have established a routine or habit(s) which puts you in a state of being comfortable with yourself and your environment.

IMAGINE :: being comfortable with yourself. Experiencing true self-acceptance.

VISUALIZE :: being generally at ease with people or whatever it is that is going on around you.

What would life be like when you’re in your groove?

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Your coach,

Is Time Going Too Fast for You and Are You Alarmed?

Time is a precarious thing. Some people feel like time is running out, while others feel like they have all the time in the world. And then there are those who fall somewhere between. Some days, you think time is on your side and everything is going to turn out OK, and then something happens that alarms you to doubt your resolve and frantic panic sets in.

As I try to support my ageless-lifestyle-enthusiast-sisterhood about “timelessness,” this quality of being where we look upon time as our friend and ally — one that’s on our side, supporting our every action — I’d be remiss if I didn’t talk about the doubt that can fester in every person’s mind when another year passes and things have not gone as hoped or planned.

If you’re triggered by the coming speed of the new year and you have a sense that — YOU’RE RUNNING OUT OF TIME — you’re not alone. Everyone feels this at some point in their life, and more so as they get older. Until, that moment, they don’t.

Here is the simple truth.

Life is about having a human experience and the time you are allotted is arbitrary.

You don’t know how long you have for this life, but what you should know is that whatever time you do have — is precious.

This idea of time being precious will resonate more as a person gets older and wiser. Though you don’t know when you will pass on in this life, you do have age markers that give you some ideas. People in their 30s can think one-third of their life is gone, and then in their 50s think that half their life is done.

It’s inevitable to come to this conclusion — that time and therefore life is precious — because you know in your human bones that there is an end point.

So what does one do with this knowledge?

Feel. At. Peace.

Time is precious so here’s what to do with the time you have so you can feel peace rather than alarm.

1. Feel your feelings.
2. Heal your hurts.
3. Constantly learn and grow.
4. Have tons of self-compassion.
5. Do things with love.
6. Be grateful.
7. Keep an open mind.

Our time is doled out to our family, friends, work, home, and hopefully to some interesting hobbies and fun physical activities, but no matter what you’re doing with your time — because you know time is precious — you follow these seven ideas.

When your mindset is about feeling your feelings, being grateful, learning, growing, doing things with love, keeping an open mind, being understanding, and healing yourself in the process — what do you think your time is going to be like on this planet?

Exactly. Your time is going to be meaningful.

When a significant portion of your time is spent doing meaningful things, you won’t hear those “running-out-of-time-alarm-bells”  (as often.) Because in truth, those bells only ring for people who pay more attention (worry-more-like) about other things and not these seven simple life enhancing ideas.

The older I get, the more I realize we do too much. Life is more simple than what we make it. Life is about having a human experience. Do that meaningfully, and you will enjoy the time you have.

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Final Thoughts

From time to time, you may want to ask yourself:

Is this worth my precious time?

Does this person deserve my precious time?

What could I be doing right now with my precious time?

Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I believe my time is precious and I’m grateful to spend it writing, inspiring, and supporting others to live a meaningful life.

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Your coach,


Fake Confidence vs Real Confidence and Steps to Get the Latter

First, fake confidence works to an extent and if it’s all you have — use it. I’ll be the first to admit that I have used “fake” confidence to get things done.

The most memorable time I used fake confidence was my first ballroom dance competition. I did not know what to expect, I had only been dancing with my teacher for six months, and here I was in a competition with people who had danced this style of dance for years. I prayed and then I channeled my inner goddess. Keeping it real, I looked the part, I felt the energy, but my dance moves were so-so.

Fake confidence works for a short period of time. After some time and for a good number of people, the fake confidence actually becomes an insecurity. You develop the belief that you’re just faking it, that you’re really not that good, and the self-doubt starts to eat away at any blooming confidence.

What’s the difference between real confidence and fake confidence?

In the context of what we are talking about, real confidence is “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.” As in the sentence, “she’s brimming with confidence!”

Fake confidence is pretending to have self-assurance over one’s own abilities or qualities. The key word is “pretending.” When you have to fake confidence you don’t really believe you’re good at what you’re doing or that you possess those personal “qualities.”

The adage, “fake it till you make it” has a ring of truth. This phenomenon of first not having confidence and then somehow, through immersing yourself in the “thing”, you develop confidence, works for some things and some people. For example, in the beginning of my career as a Pilates teacher, I was faking my confidence. After some time and after repeating all the various exercises over and over, I became confident in my ability to teach Pilates.

This method works when you can immerse yourself in the thing you’re faking. If you are able to apply yourself for hours upon hours on the skill you want to develop, then yes, at some point you do “make it” and gain confidence. This is one way to take “fake” confidence and turn it into real confidence.

But many things in life that we want to be confident about — like ourselves and our qualities — are not something we can “immerse” ourselves in.

Some examples would be wanting to feel confident that you are a good person, that you are a lovable person, and that you deserve good things to happen to you. How do you fake that till you believe that? You can’t. At least not in the methods I previously spoke about. I don’t know anyone who has faked being “lovable” so that at some point they realize themselves to be truly — a lovable person.

Limiting beliefs such as these stem from life lessons and repeated experiences where a person’s perception of each experience has made them conclude that they are unworthy in some way. (And it generally happens at a very young age.)

Any attempt at faking confidence at one’s personal qualities is useless because in fact this person will only continue to attract situations that perpetuate the negative self-belief. (So a girl who learns and believes she’s insignificant, will grow up experiencing situations that prove her right. Do you know what I mean?)

Imagine an example where a person has a deep belief that they are unworthy. This can happen when a child grows up ignored as in situations with multiple siblings or parents that are constantly gone or maybe when there isn’t enough “mother-bonding” in the beginning of life. There are many reasons a child can come to believe “I’m unlovable”, “I’m not good enough”, and so on.

As an adult, this negative belief may play out where the individual will continuously choose romantic partners or situations that are not beneficial. Point of fact, they generally choose partners who are emotionally unavailable and / or can’t  give them the kind of love they’re seeking. The person holds hope to be in a loving relationship, but because of their limiting beliefs — which many don’t think they have about themselves — keep sabotaging any love that they might be receiving.

How to Get Real Confidence

I’ve divided this section into two categories. First category will be how to get real confidence in your abilities or skills. The second will be how to get real confidence in your personal qualities.

Top 3 Ways to Get Real Confidence in Your Abilities

1. Choose to be confident in a few skills rather than pretending to know everything. You can still be a “jack of all trades” if that’s your thing, but to have real confidence in a skill, you have to possess more than just “passing” knowledge.

2. Immerse yourself in the skills you want to be known for. Dive in. Learn everything you can about whatever it is you want to be good at and become so well versed that you could teach it to anyone. When you can teach something to someone successfully, that will boost your confidence like no other.

3. Pick skills that you think are fun because when you’re having a good time doing something, the more you will be at ease with it. Being at ease and enjoying the moment lends you to becoming comfortable and the more comfortable you are with something the more confident you are about it. (Ironically, when you’re “faking” confidence in a skill, you actually get yourself in some pretty uncomfortable situations.)

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One of the few skills I’m confident about is my ability to teach others how to move their body. Having been a dancer for most of my life and a fitness professional for over 12 years — from teaching 2nd graders how to dance, adults to stand with good posture, and seniors to move with ease — my experience has taught me that I’m really good at this. Also, I enjoy “moving” so much, that it is a pleasure to teach others, to give them body confidence, freedom through movement, and a way to stay healthy.

Top 3 Ways to Get Real Confidence in Your Personal Qualities

Before I show you how to get more confidence in this regard, name 5 qualities you want to be known for. Here are a list of some admirable qualities:

  • Adventurous
  • Affectionate
  • Assertive
  • Authentic
  • Balanced
  • Benevolent
  • Bold
  • Brave
  • Capable
  • Cheerful
  • Compassionate
  • Confident
  • Creative
  • Curious
  • Decisive
  • Deep
  • Dependable
  • Devoted
  • Disciplined
  • Easy-going
  • Enthusiastic
  • Fair
  • Flexible
  • Forgiving
  • Funny
  • Generous
  • Gentle
  • Good
  • Grateful
  • Helpful
  • Honest
  • Humble
  • Integrity
  • Intuitive
  • Inspiring
  • Intelligent
  • Joyful
  • Just
  • Kind
  • Knowledgeable
  • Lively
  • Logical
  • Loving
  • Loyal
  • Nurturing
  • Optimist
  • Original
  • Passionate
  • Patient
  • Playful
  • Positive
  • Powerful
  • Resourceful
  • Respectful
  • Responsible
  • Sensitive
  • Sincere
  • Spiritual
  • Strong
  • Soulful
  • Thoughtful
  • Trustworthy
  • Understanding
  • Virtuous
  • Visionary
  • Warm
  • Wise
  • Witty

1. Pick a quality you want to be known for and define what this quality means to you. Use a mixture of the dictionary definition and your own words to create a meaning that best suits your ideas of how you want to be perceived. Then, write out how your life would change and benefit if you had more confidence about this. (Do this for your top 5 personal qualities sister!)

This process helps you to “own” the trait by creating your own definition and internalizing  the meaning by articulating how you could benefit. When you make something your own — you accept it as yours. This attitude of ownership — a claiming of “this is me” — helps to develop real confidence.

2. Visualize yourself being the quality you wish to possess. How would you interact with others when you embody this personal quality? Use your mind’s eye — how will others treat you because they see this quality in you. Would they respect you, love you, see you as a valuable and genuine person because of this trait?

Visualizations help you to see the potential in yourself and how your life could be. It also helps you to embody this energy and attract more situations where you can showcase this quality about you. The more that you are encouraged to see yourself as this quality and act in this quality, the more confident you will become that you are this quality.

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3. Heal the issues that have you believing the opposite of what you want. Through some form of self-help or  therapy, remove the blocks that prevent you from possessing the personal qualities you wish. Exercises such as forgiveness work, changing negative belief systems, prayer, and positive thinking are some ways that can help.

At some point in life, you learned that you weren’t “something”  (replace this word with a good quality) and that you were this other “negative” thing (replace this word with a less than admirable quality) — fix that. Close that chapter and throw tons of love at it.

When you heal your negative self-beliefs, the more confidence you will have about the kind of person you want to be. And when you feel good about yourself, the more you are empowered to contribute, share, and shine the light that is within you. (And the world needs you ma!)

When you are able to show people who you really are — that speaks more about your confidence than anything else.

BONUS:: How To Get Real Body Confidence

I wasn’t planning on adding this section, as it wasn’t on my original outline, but earlier this week I got an email from a client who is on my Better Posture in 30 Days Program and her words gave me the confidence to share these ideas too!

1. Improve your posture and raise your body confidence. Standing taller and straighter not only gives the “look” of confidence, it actually helps change your body physiology which goes to improve mood. When you have a better attitude, you are more sure of yourself.

2. Improve your relationship with your body to increase body confidence. The more you accept and love your body, the more you treat your body well and appreciate it. When you are in harmony with your body, you move with an air of pride — like you and your body are in this adventure together (um, because you totally  are!) and it makes you feel like you are on a team of sorts — your body-being and your soul-being run the show together!

3. Heal any bad memories, trauma, and negative beliefs you have regarding your body. To me, this is the most helpful in increasing one’s body confidence. You can decide how you want to heal and where to get help, but I urge for my sisterhood to do this as truly loving and accepting your body — and all its beautiful imperfect parts — will be such a mind and soul reliever that so many things in life will seem like cake after.

Yes, we live in a culture of body-shaming tactics and energy, but we are also the biggest perpetrators of unloving, sometimes — down right hateful — thoughts against our body. We need to stop that. Your soul picked your body to inhabit. If it’s good enough for her, then it must be pretty awesome. (With that said, I’m all about treating one’s body like a temple because that’s just good housekeeping. And yes, because our beautiful soul calls it home and we want to show our gratitude.)

Choose real confidence. This is who you’re meant to be.

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And you got this mama — ROAR!

Your coach,


Queen for a Day? Or, Queen for Life? You Decide

Being queen for a day is mostly about getting what you want for “24 hours.” It’s a pretty fun day and usually appropriated to us by our loved ones for our birthday, anniversary, and / or Mother’s day. And, we are grateful to our family and significant other for this gift which I would describe as an effort of “showing their appreciation by truly listening to our needs and trying to give us what we want” (without much talk back) for a few hours (because it’s not really 24 is it? Since we all have to sleep. )

So very nice indeed, BUT how about if we want more?

Would you want to have more things go your way, get what you want more often, and have yourself be really listened to so that your words are heard — as when a Queen speaks?

Be a Queen for Life

The first definition of “queen” is :: “the female ruler of an independent state, especially one who inherits the position by right of birth.”

Priestess-empowerment translation :: “a female who rules her mind and body, in harmony with her spirit, especially who awakens to this position by discovering (after much turmoil) that it is her divine right.”

Are you on board with this sisters?

How to Be More “Queen” in Your Life

By discovering who you really are, uncovering what you’re made of, and believing your own story (fairy-tale.)

What does that mean?

Well let this sister-friend-warrior-queen tell you… 😉

1. Discovering who you really are means getting in touch with the source within you.

I’m going to say this in a few different ways that basically mean the same thing — that you’re a pretty special lady.

You are made of stardust. (That’s a fact.) Inside you are God particles. You are energy. You are unlimited potential. You are light. (And darkness too.) You are love.

As queens in the past have taken reign because of their birthright, so should you take control of your life by knowing your origins.

Get to know the divine soul within you.

Explore the infinite source of love, light, and joy that flows through your body and discover how you are deserving of all that is good.

When you choose to acknowledge this part of you, nurture this holistic relationship — soul-being, human-being, and God-being — and act in harmony — coherence between all these aspects of you — YOU become the queen of you. Sovereign to the little universe called your body (because your body is a fractal of the entire universe — a self-similar replica.)


Did you know that being queen of your self means you’ll be ruling over 100 000 BILLION cells?

When you think of it like that, don’t you think your body needs a queen to guide it?

Imagine “lost” cells.  Cells with no leadership. Do you think such cells could wreak havoc?

Unregulated cells turn into cancer cells. (That’s a fact.)

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2. Uncovering what you’re made of means knowing where you came from, what you’ve been through, and truly owning how you’ve grown, changed, and have become formidable in your own right.

To know where you came from is to take stock of your life experiences. To see and be amazed at the stuff you’ve been through and freaking fist-pound yourself to say — YOU did it. You’re badass. That sh!t was cray and you survived ma! More. Power. To. You.

Being a survivor changes you. And we are all survivors of something.

Most queens during their reign had to fight to keep their kingdom and throne safe. Your story is no different. You are also, no less capable.

A queen takes responsibility for herself and everything she has influence over. Her mind, body, family, connections, work, and home to name a few.

This idea of taking on “world-like-pressure” as a personal responsibility is not new to women, but the notion that one knowingly accepts the pressure because they want their kingdom — their little universe — to be governed lovingly, justly, and harmoniously, is.

This perspective of — ownership of your life and universe — is a game changer.

You thought you were a pawn.

You thought wrong.

You are the most powerful piece.

 3. Believe that you were born to be a queen and then act like it.

As a want-to-be-queen-for-life, you first have to go within and basically introduce yourself to your kingdom. Then you have tell them why you would make an excellent queen — because, you know… you’ve slayed dragons and all that. Next, the kingdom validates your request by doing some fact checking — does this potential queen believe what she says and does she do what she believes? (It’s impossible to lie to your mind, body, and spirit. They are present to everything you say and do.)

The last part to becoming a queen of your life is to actually believe it and then when tested with a life decision, difficult situation, or personal trial, this belief is proven to be true because you act in a queenly manner — in accordance to your beliefs. Beyond the “queen” aspect, the real question is — do your beliefs align with what you want in life?

You (queen) get what you want in life by stating clear and concise directives that support your desired goal and is in harmony with your beliefs.

What does that look like in real life?

When you are queen of your body you can say to her, “Eat organic whole foods 80% of the time so you stay healthy and vibrant.” This sentence is clear, concise, gives instructions, and explains the desired outcome. The only factor left is to find out if this statement falls in line with the person’s beliefs about themselves, health, and food to name some factors that can make this directive allowable or not.

For example, if the person believes that “I’ll always be fat because it’s in my DNA, I’ve always been heavy, and I don’t think anything I do will really help.” The limiting belief being that, “I am helpless.” Then stating the sentence, “Eat organic whole foods 80% of the time so you stay healthy and vibrant.” won’t do any good. The kingdom of cells, organs, and body systems that she governs will see that their queen really doesn’t believe that, and so they’ll will follow what they know to be true — her negative core beliefs.

When you are queen in your romantic relationship you can say things to your partner like, “Before you leave in the morning, kiss me good-bye because it makes me feel loved and connected to you.” This sentence is clear, concise, gives instructions, and explains the desired outcome. The only factor left is to find out if this statement falls in line with the person’s beliefs about themselves, love, and relationships to name some factors that can make this directive allowable or not.

For example if a person actually believes that they are unlovable, that they are not good enough, and that they must be perfect to be loved — then, no. The words may come out, “please love me this way…” but the parties involved will sense the lack of conviction and so it won’t be taken seriously.

Does this resonate with my sisterhood?

It is our beliefs that are either the biggest obstacle or the most supportive system we have in getting what we want in life.

Do we believe life is hard and miserable or that life is challenging and can be filled with fun?

Do we believe ourselves to be helpless and incapable or do we believe we are resourceful and strong?

Do we believe ourselves to be insignificant or something more divine and magical?

Do we believe ourselves to be victims of our circumstances or queens of our domain?

Whatever you believe — will be more true for you.

(And if your beliefs aren’t serving you as they should — then change them.)

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Your coach,


That Moment When You Said, “I’ve Suffered Enough”

Suffering is the emotional state of feeling “pain, distress, and hardship” and for many, these feelings last for some time. Most of us have suffered at some point in our lives and inevitably — as an act of survival — we realize we’ve “suffered enough.” Like a harsh wake-up call, we determine with a fair amount of certainty that because of our painful situation, we’re either going to break down, break somebody, or by golly, break free. Many speak of this moment as “reaching the end of their rope” or “hitting rock bottom.” (Does this resonate with anyone?)

These dire moments also help people have a breakthrough. They figure out something — that life is not supposed to be like this — and then they find the courage within themselves to do what they need to do.

So yes, we’ve all suffered. But, it begs the question, why do we have to suffer for so long — where we need to get to a breaking point — before we make a change?

Why can’t we identify suffering earlier and resolve it sooner so that we suffer less?

I believe we can and it begins with a choice.

“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” ~ Haruki Murakami

Here’s what I know…

You will suffer in life. If you try to avoid it, you will merely prolong or postpone the suffering.

Life isn’t about suffering, but suffering seems to be an essential component to our growth and expansion as conscious humans and soul-beings.

On the other hand, if one wishes for a life without suffering, what they’re really saying is, “I am scared that I cannot handle the challenges set before me.” This way of thinking will not get a person far because life is filled with obstacles and plainly — shit happens. Instead, wish for courage, strength, and wisdom. Such prayers will be answered quicker and you’ll be made more formidable. (Formed-and-made-able!)

The key to less suffering is to not avoid it. The ideal is to be aware of the suffering sooner, resolve it as best you can, learn the lessons you must, and then move beyond it.

We have to acknowledge — as early as possible — what is uncomfortable, painful, and scary to us. Then, we must surrender to it. Feel the ugliest parts of it fully so that it brings us to that proverbial “breaking-point” (sooner than later) where we have no choice, but to act and change.

We can suffer less when we choose to see our suffering sooner.

Don’t ignore what is painful.

Don’t ignore what is scary.

Your metal is harder sister.

If you’re reading this post, that’s proof of your strength. How? As my uncle George recently told me, “So far, you’ve survived 100% of your worst days. You’re doing great.” (We’re survivors ma!)

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How do you become aware of your suffering sooner?

By paying attention to your feelings.

Are you worried all the time? Do you find yourself sad or feeling incomplete most days? Are you angry a lot? Do you cry often? Do you say things like, “Why is this always happening to me?”

Life isn’t a bed of roses, but it shouldn’t be all thorns either. If you find yourself feeling negative feelings most of the time, then that means you’re suffering.

Now having a bad day doesn’t mean you’re suffering. It means you had a bad day. The truth is, only you know if you’re in a bad state. If there is any confusion, ask your heart if she’s OK. And then, listen.

What do you do once you become aware of your suffering?

You fix and heal the situation and yourself as best you can.

You pray for courage, strength, and wisdom. You call your closest friends and family for advice and help. You seek out other people (professionals, counselors, and so forth) that you think might help you. You think positive. You make a plan. Then, you make a promise to yourself to do your best to end this “suffering.”

Despite everything I’ve said in this post — that it’s best to see our suffering sooner so that we suffer less — it’s just the “hope” and ideal, but when you are able to break free from anything that is no longer serving you — that’s all good! And the moment you do it, that was the exact right time for you.

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Celebrate Being a Woman of a Certain Age

Celebrate being a woman of a certain age because with the right attitude, life just keeps getting better from here!

Most women are affected by the coming of their birthdays. Some are excited to celebrate the day of their birth while some dread another year going by informing them that they are getting older. As an ageless lifestyle enthusiast I encourage us to feel excited and grateful for each year we have.

Years ago in French class I learned the phrase, “d’un certain âge” (of a certain age.)The vague term is a euphemism for describing an “older” woman politely. But let’s go beyond that…

I admiringly imagine, that a woman who becomes old enough to be labeled as of a “certain age,” no longer has much use for counting her legal age. To her, it no longer matters how old she is, what matters instead is the wisdom she’s gained throughout her years. This wisdom is what empowers her and gives her hope to believe that though her future is not all written in stone — she’s confident in its general positive outcome because she knows where she came from,  what she’s been through, and how she’s had the strength to overcome much and therefore anything else that may come her way.

The attitude of honoring the gaining of wisdom — the experiences and lessons that have made a person — instead of fearing the accumulating years, IS what’s most relevant to a woman who embraces her timelessness.

I came to this conclusion when I turned 40 a few years ago, which coincided with me starting Inspire Youthful — a lifestyle blog about ageless living. Perhaps 40 might be considered relatively “young” in comparison to a person that others might label as being of a “certain age.” I don’t know. For me, this milestone struck a chord. I realized that because of my past experiences and lessons learned — my future — 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and so on were going to be so much better.

Of course, life still throws curve balls. We never really stop being students of life. Always learning, growing, and expanding. But, when I take stalk of where I’ve been, what I’ve seen, and felt, and then I realize that — I’m still standing — well, that just puts me back in the game looking for solutions, guidance, and healing instead of dwelling on whatever problem I think I have. So yeah, I’m feeling pretty good about being a woman of a “certain age.” I earned it.

To all my sisters, sometimes it’s like the years are whizzing by us and perhaps not everything has gone our way or like we hoped… However our respective stories have unfolded — we’ve been made stronger and smarter because of them. Each year that passes where we can smile more, laugh louder, and love harder shows how resilient we are. We got this.

There’s something to be said about a woman who’s reached the age where she knows what she wants, has the know-how to get it, the ability to solve the problems that may come her way, and who resolutely believes her time is now — no matter her age.

Actress Helen Mirren — a beautiful and empowered woman of a “certain age” — says she would tell her younger self to say the words “fuck off” more. I say, right on. First, we’ve always had the right to say it, but now — older — we’ve got the gumption to drop the mic and walk off stage. (Boom!) Celebrate your wisdom my ageless compadres. ROAR!

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Your coach,